Sex and Singles!

A few things happened these past few months that made me question someone assumptions I had about single babes and sex. You know when you are born again and living the sanctified life or trying to live it, there are challenges that you face daily and even routinely and you just have to overcome these with God’s grace and effort.
How do you explain a single sister saying she has to test a brother to know if he is good before she can decide is she can marry him? And this a leader in church? Isn’t she indirectly saying that she does not trust God to choose for her? Is she saying that God is no longer in control and that He will not make everything beautiful?
what if the relationship with that brother does not work out? Does that mean that she will sleep with the next brother to see if he fits? Does that not make her worse than the unbeliever out there? What if she becomes pregnant? Can you imagine the shame of it all?
I do not believe that a single sister has any business sleeping with a brother to test anything. Even if the brother asks you for this, you should report him to your pastor. The bible says that our bodies are God’s temples. Sleeping with someone as a single is defiling your body and the temple of God. Also, The bible says the wedding bed should be undefined. When you sleep with that brother, you are defiling the wedding bed. What do you have to look forward to on that night?
What do you think? Am i too harsh? Is my thinking outdated? What do you think?

Desperately Single

I want to start by apologizing for not having posted anything in the past few weeks. Been dealing with life.
Something came to my mind the past couple of weeks that i want to talk about. It has to do with singles above the age of 30. And I want to ask a question that you may not like. Are you so desperate to get married that you fall for any smooth talking brother that comes your way?
You know in the past 2 months, things have happened that have me made wonder when we became so desperate to get married that we throw all caution to the winds and settle for less than we deserve.
Why do we allow pressure from family members, friends, relatives etc push us into taking the wrong decision?
Do you forget that your family, friends and all those people will not live in the marriage with you and that you will be the one to bear your cross yourself?
What brought this on is the news i heard about the end of the marriage of a friend. They were only married for about 6 months. When my friend was introduced to this guy, we all told her that he was not right for her as he was not a christian, he used to talk down to her in public, didn’t have a job and was not as well educated as she was. We asked her if she had talked to her pastor about the relationship but she did not. She fell into the i am old and i want to have a baby now syndrome and the pressure is too much so I am ready to do this. We found out later that this guy used to beat her if she did not talk to him “properly”. She brought him from Nigeria to London where she lives. After 6 months of marriage, he filed for divorce and tried to take all that she had worked for in 15 years of living abroad.
Why do we fall for these kind of guys?Why do we let others push us into doing what we should not do? Why do we forget the bible when we decide that we are too old? Why do we not listen to what people around us are saying about our intended? If you so much belive that this guy is the one that God ordained for you, why would you not take him to your pastor?
Sisters and single brothers, we are all too precious in the sight of God to have our hearts toyed with. We should never forget what the word of God says about us being Royal prieshoods, apple of God’s eyes and so many other scriptures that I can quote for you. Don’t forget that we should submit everything to the spirit of God that dwells in you and believe that He is in control and He will never let us down or disappoint us.
One thing you should always remember is that when you are so desperate to marry, you fall into the wrong hands. May that not be our portion in Jesus name, amen.
Please always, look, listen, pray and talk to your spiritual leaders.
Don’t forget that before you enter into a relationship, you should receive confirmation from God. God can send confirmation through other people or even speak to you. Don’t allow others push you to make a mistake.
I know that being single can be lonesome, frustrating and depressing sometimes but always remember that you have friends and family who care about you. Reach out to someone when you feel down, go out, do something different.
Don’t be pushed into taking an action you will regret eternally.
When you marry that guy that is not God chosen for you due to pressures from others, you alone will bear the consequences of it. Ask my friend. None of those people that pushed and nagged her into getting married were there for her when she was being used as a boxing bag. She is trying to rebuild her life now and wishes she had followed the leading of the spirit. Guard your heart jealously.
Do you know anyone who has been in this situation? How did they come out of? What are you doing not to fall into such a situation?
Look forward to hearing from you.

Valentine’s Day and Love

Happy valentine’s day. Did you have fun? Valentine’s day has come and gone. I want to ask though, what did you do that day? i am not talking to my married friends, but to you my single friends who are not in any relationship.
Did you stay home alone feeling sorry for yourself? Wondering when your own man would come so you’d have someone to share days like that with? Or did you go out with a group of other friends or even go out alone just to have fun and enjoy yourself?
This valentine’s day was a bit of a mix for me. i wasn’t working that day so i had time to surf the web and watch the news and all the day time soaps with their love theme and it got me thinking.
I thought of God’s love for us in that he sent his only son to die for us that we might be saved. I thought of how many times He spoke about loving us and knowing us in the bible. And I wondered’ how often do we stop and say God, I love you. How often do we show love to the people around us. When we go to church and we sing the song “I love you with the love of the lord’ and we go out after the service and bash the person who sat next to us, are we showing love? Can people see that we are Christians through our actions?
Do you know the name of your neighbor? If you met them in the store, would you recognize them? Love ya neighbor like yourself. Do you love yourself? Jesus Christ first loved us, but do you admire all your bits and pieces or do you wonder if that is why you are single? If you don’t love yourself, how do you expect others to love you?
As far as i am concerned, everyday is Valentine’s day. You have to love yourself and celebrate yourself and celebrate Christ in you.
What do think about all i said? Let me have your comments please.